Time

                     How to stop time : kiss

                     How to travel in time : read

                     How to escape time : music

                     How to feel time : write

                     How to release time : breathe

Nothing is Permanent

Seventeen Camels

A father left 17 Camels as an Asset for his Three Sons.

When the Father passed away, his sons opened up the will.

The Will of the Father stated that the Eldest son should get Half of 17 Camels,

The Middle Son should be given 1/3rd of 17 Camels,

Youngest Son should be given 1/9th of the 17 Camels,

As it is not possible to divide 17 into half or 17 by 3 or 17 by 9, the sons started to fight with each other.

So, they decided to go to a wise man.

The wise man listened patiently about the Will. The wise man, after giving this thought, brought one camel of his own & added the same to 17. That increased the total to 18 camels.

Now, he started reading the deceased father’s will.

Half of 18 = 9.
So he gave 9 camels
to the eldest son.

1/3rd of 18 = 6.
So he gave 6 camels
to the middle son.

1/9th of 18 = 2.
So he gave 2 camels
to the youngest son.

Now add this up:
9 + 6 + 2 = 17 &
This leaves 1 camel,
which the wise man took back.

MORAL: The attitude of negotiation & problem solving is to find the 18th camel i.e. the common ground. Once a person is able to find the common ground, the issue is resolved. It is difficult at times.

However, to reach a solution, the first step is to believe that there is a solution. If we think that there is no solution, we won’t be able to reach any!

Enthusiasm

"You can do anything 
if you have enthusiasm. 
Enthusiasm is the yeast that 
makes your hopes rise to the stars." 
- Henry Ford

The Good Stuff in the Bad

A young woman was sitting at her dining table, worried about taxes to be paid, house-work to be done and to top it all, her family was coming over for Thanks giving the next day.

She was not feeling very thankful at that time.

As she turned her gaze sideways, she noticed her young daughter scribbling furiously into her notebook.

“My teacher asked us to write a paragraph on “Negative Thanks giving” for homework today.” said the daughter

“She asked us to write down things that we are thankful for, things that make us feel not so good in the beginning, but turn out to be good after all.”

With curiosity, the mother peeked into the book.

This is what her daughter wrote:

“I’m thankful for Final Exams, because that means school is almost over.

I’m thankful for bad-tasting medicine, because it helps me feel better.

I’m thankful for waking up to alarm clocks, because it means I’m still alive.”

It then dawned on the mother, that she had a lot of things to be thankful for!

She thought again…

She had to pay taxes but that meant she was fortunate to be employed.

She had house-work to do but that meant she had her own home to live in.

She had to cook for her family for Thanks giving but that meant she had a family with whom she could celebrate.

Moral:

We generally complain about the negative things in life but we fail to look at the positive side of it.

What is the positive in your negatives?

Look at the better part of life this day and make it a great day."....

The Bamboo and the Fern

One day...I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality… 
I wanted to quit my life.

I went to the woods to have one last talk with God

“God”, I asked, “Can you give me one good reason not to quit?”.

His answer surprised me…
“Look around”, He said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo ?

“Yes”, I replied.

“When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water.The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor.Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.

He said, “In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.But I would not quit.In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit.” He said.

“Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern, it was seemingly small and insignificant. But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.

It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.

I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.”

He asked me. “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots”.

“I would not quit on the bamboo.I will never quit on you.”

“Don’t compare yourself to others.” He said.

”The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful.”

"Your time will come”, God said to me. 

“You will rise high”.

“How high should I rise?” I asked.

“How high will the bamboo rise?” He asked in return.

“As high as it can?” I questioned.

”Yes.” He said, “Give Me glory by rising as high as you can.”

I left the forest and brought back this story.

Never, Never, Never, Give up!!
"In life, each relationship will have feelings and differences. ....it's Always better to be melted in feelings than to be frozen with differences".

Nurture the Child

If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them.
If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.
If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.
If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.
If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.

If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.
If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right or wrong.

Change starts at home. 

Try a few if not all and see the sea change in the relations. Can you?